The elf made me do it...

Updated: Jun 20, 2019

It’s tempting to blame others for our circumstances, but accepting 100% responsibility for our actions is the beginning of peak performance.


You are responsible for your actions – all of them. You are responsible for your thoughts and behavior, whether deliberate or unintentional. You will make mistakes, but when you do, learn to take responsibility and make it right.


You are where you are because of who you are. Everything that exists in your life exists because of you, because of your behavior, words and actions, and reactions.



Here are some tips on how to start taking responsibility for your own actions.


  1. Be accountable. If your children are unruly, your partner is stubborn, your coworker unbearable, you are always responsible for how you respond. Your reactions to all of these situations is under your control. Stop blaming. When you point a finger at others, you lose control over yourself. Just because the other person is acting like a fool, doesn’t mean you have to be one yourself.

  2. Acknowledge your mistakes. When you acknowledge, “Yes, I forgot to call when I said I would,” you eliminate the need to make up silly excuses. “I blew it,” is the responsible three-word sentence, and when followed with “How can I make it up to you?” it makes people willing to forgive. Your integrity earns respect.

  3. Focus on the positive. Move through your day with positive attitude. Have you ever noticed that negative people rarely take responsibility for their own behaviour? Anything that goes wrong is always that other person’s fault. They’re perpetual victims. Taking responsibility for having the life you want, switcha your focus from what went wrong to what went right. This small shift in focus will turn you from a loser into a winner.

  4. See yourself clearly. Taking responsibility means acknowledging both your weaknesses and strengths. Learn to acknowledge all that is wonderful about youraelf. Practice being kind to yourself. Do not dismiss your own achievements. Take stock of your good and positive qualities and make continuous improvement in your emotional intelligence.

  5. Learn to say “thank you.” Acceptlong praise graciously when it’s offered. When someone acknowledges you, simply say, “thank you.” When someone is kind or gives you a gift, the best response is a sincere “thank you.”

  6. Practice healthy self-awareness. I’m not talking about an unhealthy focus on your own problems, worrying endlessly about the future, regretting the past, and feeling sorry for yourself. That leads to emotional exhaustion. However, taking time to reflect on what makes you tick, in a gentle, thought way is the beginning of self-love and personal responsibility.

Dave Quinn, CEcD is Chief Inspiration Officer for DaveQuinn247.com and President of City Services for Day One Experts, an economic development consulting firm specializing in economic development consulting to companies, communities, and organizations. If you'd like to set up a time to visit with Dave about possible speaking engagements or to find out more about becoming a member of the Day One family click here to set up a 30-minute discovery call.


Dave is a passionate keynote speaker and coach, encouraging others to be a positive influence in the world around them. As an economic development mastermind, wellness advocate and vision caster, he loves inspiring others through talks on Leadership, Wellness, Economic Development, and Personal Responsibility. Connect with him in the social media world: TwitterInstagram, and others @DaveQuinn247.

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